Change Speaker Changes His Prayer

Dependable Change

Aside from our own choices to be flexible enough to persist until a Image of Watch for Change ahead - Winners Don't Quit Associationparticular obstacle is overcome, change is the only constant in life. While this uncertainty makes it difficult to plan for a specific future, if this inconsistency in the way things are is accepted and planned for, change can be embraced as a dependable friend.

The fact that change is persistently and dependably constant is something we all know we will always have to live with. Because change is the only dependably constant and reliable thing we have to count on, change itself gives us six immutable facts that can be called givens:

Six Change Givens

  1. Everything changes and ends.
  2. Planning is wise, but things do not always go according to plan.
  3. Life is not always fair.
  4. Periods of more or less pain are part of life.
  5. People are not loving and loyal all the time.
  6. Your own Attitude is all you can change.

Having grown up around church people, I’ve seen first hand how most of them are usually kind and honest people. As my experience with the sometimes unwelcome changes of life increases, it occurs to me that the way I learned to pray as a child was all too limited.

One of the key purposes of my childhood prayers was to protect, from harm, myself, or for whomever I was currently praying. Looking back on my sometimes painful rehabilitation journey and on my recent cancer diagnosis, a more spiritually aware prayer would be:

A Changed Prayer

“Be with me in the givens so I can handle them. Don’t abrogate all my suffering, rather stay with me, changing  me with your strength and your peace through whatever comes my way, so I don’t miss out on what the givens can teach me.


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7 Responses to Change Speaker Changes His Prayer

  1. Ktpeil October 24, 2011 at 2:06 am #

    Al, this is lovely! Yes, prayers are also about creating  “the givens” – including a positive cooperative and just future for all of us to share. It is creating a vision (or sharing one that is already in the realm of the possible, the mind of God – however one might conceive the divine) and making it manifest. It gives me tremendous pleasure to see with website. A reality that you created, and one that does justice to the vision I had of you the first time we met on that Metro bus. But it wasn’t something I made up. I saw it in and around you, transcendent yet already immanent. And apparently so did you! Way to go soul brother – and there’s still more to come! Hugs!

  2. MBRob77 October 24, 2011 at 3:17 am #

    Al, I know what you say is true, but I still have a problem with change.  Maybe it’s just a developmental issue and I’ll grow out of it.  I keep feeling, way down deep, that the is permanence, if only I can get the right people and situations together, then life will be OK.  Maybe this is left over from the divorce/step-child years.  Thank you for your insights.  They are helpful.  –

  3. Anonymous October 24, 2011 at 4:03 pm #

    I’m blessed with the right teachers in my life, of whom you are one. Actually I’m blessed to have been given an open mind and Attitude so I can learn from the teachers placed in my life. The pleasure your words give me is surpassed only by my hunger for more growth. Thank you for your continual encouragement over the years.

  4. Anonymous October 24, 2011 at 4:13 pm #

    I’ve known you for at least 12 years Mark and you are one of the most stable and lighthearted people I know. Go easy on yourself.

    We all have at least a degree of problem with change. Familiarity creates comfort. Since changes will always continue to happen, one key to being comfortable with change is accepting that changes happen and letting acceptance of and familiarity with change lead us to feeling comfortable with change.

  5. Ginny October 25, 2011 at 9:19 pm #

    As one matures and grows, prayer does chnge and it too becomes more mature.  God has promised to always be with us, and as we grow and realize this we gain the strength &peace He has promised.

  6. Anonymous October 29, 2011 at 4:10 am #

    Like life itself, trusting God brings about maturity and patience. To realize that some pains persist, whether God is with me or not, requires me to accept that sometimes life just plain hurts. I think the key is in trusting that pain is ultimately of benefit to the one who endures it without complaining.

  7. Ktpeil November 21, 2011 at 3:16 pm #

    PS People CAN be loving and loyal all the time! But we need to self-actualize as much as possible. So we all need honor one another’s genuine limits to how much disposable time and resources they may have to share. Betrayals are due to fear, but compassion is part of loyalty. This is why we need to be able to keenly and wisely prioritize our values, be sparing with our dutiful obligations that lie outside our calling, and be able to recognize our “sacred friends” when they come along. After all, how we choose to spend our time here is all any of us really have!

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