Overcome Depression

Do You Battle Depression? Who wins?

With the medical advances of the past 10 to 20 years, if you battle depression you are likely to have been prescribed any of a number of effective anti-depressant medications.

At this point, my crash was over 30 years ago, so by the time anti-depressants became commonly used, I was beyond most of the feelings of hopelessness and despair that would have warranted using anti-depressants.

As I battled my most negative feelings, all I knew to do was head to the self help section of a local bookstore. Authors like Norman Vincent Peale and Maxwell Maltz, author of Psycho Cybernetics, gave me my first ideas that I have the power to control my self image. They showed me that how I feel about myself does a lot to determine how others see me.

The Power of Attitude

When I first began developing an interest in the power of Attitude, I was so trapped in the “Attitude prison” of resentment, self pity,fear and bitter anger that I could not think  in a Win-Win mode. Concerning myself with the welfare of others was beyond the scope of what I could even imagine, much less do.

Before I could bring myself to begin caring about other people’s life books, I had to come to a place where I fully accepted the book I’d been given.

Fighting Depression Using a Higher Power…

This next thing sounds a little spooky and concerns having a spiritual connection to your higher power. I call my higher power God or Jesus. Anyway, once I fully accepted that the way things are in my life is exactly the way they are supposed to be, I became free to care how other people feel about things in their lives.

Fighting Depression - Winners Don't Quit AssociationThis brings us to the whole question concerning the chicken and the egg. Which comes first…

Feeling good about yourself because you care about others or caring about others because you feel good about yourself?

Which Comes First is Irrelevant!

  1. When I’m comfortable being who I am, I find it easier to have compassion for others.
  2. It’s impossible for me to feel sorry for myself when I’m helping someone who has more problems than I do.

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7 Responses to Overcome Depression

  1. David February 10, 2011 at 9:52 pm #

    I love the idea of self-help books….read a few when I was a young teenager…I was a deep thinker and moody since the breakup of my parents in the 8-9 age range. I had premonitions of being a loner and lonely from this time on. What Al said about being around others and interacting and staying busy was what kept me afloat…music, band, marching, and school in general, were the things that diverted my mind from the self, and total gloom. I don’t believe in SRRIs or antidepressants for what permanent changes I believe they can make in the brain chemistry. I gave them to others as part of my job as a nurse, but knew they had started long ago taking these powerful chemicals and that I had to deal with my depression in another eay. When I sought Job retraining, the folks there told me they would pay for housing, college, and a stipend if only i would take the afore mentioned drugs. Without popping those brain changing pills, the people at vocational rehab. would not help me. There has to be another way to battle depression without pills. All I know is when I stay busy and challenge my mind to learn and divert it from thinking about my lifes negative aspects, I’m fine, even better than fine. Maybe its the fact that so many of us are high functioning ADHD people, that we must keep very busy (doing good) to fight off the tendency to become depressed when we slow down. Dave

  2. Kent Van Cleave June 26, 2011 at 2:22 am #

    There is much wisdom here, Al.  When my marriage of 40 years disintegrated – over the last year – I fell into a profound depression. My behvior became erratic. I started prozac. One day I simply realized that this was meant to be and quit struggling to save the relationship. That freed me. I quit prozac, started helping others, and experience now happiness beyond any I experienced in the last ten years.

  3. Alfoxx June 26, 2011 at 5:22 am #

    Thank you David for your comment. Interacting with others does do a lot to help keep my mind off my own problems. What really tends to free me from being preoccupied with my own issues is being concerned with helping others who need my help.

  4. Al Foxx June 26, 2011 at 5:28 am #

    Thank you, Kent. I totally hear what your saying. Helping others has done more than any other single thing to help me accept myself and my disability. It is difficult, if not impossible, for me to feel sorry for myself while I’m helping someone who has more problems than I do. I’m not saying I have problems, I’m just saying…

  5. Jimdarla July 5, 2011 at 4:11 pm #

    This is powerful! I am going to share this with my loved ones who struggle painfully with depression. I remember witnessing your painful days and it gives me courage to see you on the other side of this….And helping others over it too!

  6. Anonymous July 5, 2011 at 10:25 pm #

    The beauty of recovery is that helping others to  recover strengthens my own recovery. It’s like giving it away allows me to keep it.


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