Who Doesn’t Want a Happy Ending?
In listening to friends and strangers alike, some with disabilities some without disabilities, it’s clear that acceptance of the life book you’re given, belief in your possibilities, caring about others and gratitude for the gifts you have been given are tools to write happy life stories, regardless of any disability you may have.
This simplified version of the formula is complete enough to have a powerful impact, but statistics on suicides committed and anti depressants taken are evidence that people don’t use these tools. Why not?
Just in case more people would be writing happy endings, if they knew the specific steps that lead to an inevitably happy result, I decided to begin a process of describing my happy ending.
Writing a Happy Ending
Writing a happy ending to your life book begins with acceptance. The first thing I learned to do is to accept my paralysis, which was easy once I understood that:
“Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because when we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult—once we truly understand and accept it—then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.”
M. Scott Peck M.D.
In this day, “Accepting the book you’ve been given and writing a happy ending” is truly relevant to us. But this process is not for the dabbler. Not much, if anything, will be gained if it is tried for a week and then discarded. Like Grandma Moses said, “Life is what we make it, always has been, always will be.” Writing a happy ending to your life is not a “turn on, tune in, and drop out” philosophy that we can attain effortlessly. Writing a happy ending is a lifestyle choice that takes time and effort.
Writing Happy Ending is Like Playing an Instrument
Writing a happy ending is like learning to play an instrument. It takes a while to get the fundamentals–scales, chords, and fingering technique. Writing a happy ending takes daily practice to acquire the proper mindsets. It’s like learning melodies and progressions. Occasional failure or frustration is inevitable, but like a beginning pianist gradually learns the notes until they begin to hear real music, the author intent on writing a happy ending gradually begins to see the words he or she writes describing the happy ending that is playing out in their life.
We don’t have to become virtuosos on our instruments to appreciate and employ the art form. In the same way, we don’t have to become Jesus or Buddha to use the tools that will bring peace and happiness into our lives, but we can’t achieve anything without effort. Like Grandma Moses said: Life is what we make it, always has been, always will be.
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