Disabled Inspirational Speaker Solution Focused.
In the beginning of my rehab journey, I focused on my disabilities.
Then I cleverly began to focus on solving my disabilities, until I realized that I was still focusing on my disabilities.
One result of focusing on something is that the act of focusing on it increases its prominence. The process of me becoming a key note speaker involved me changing my focus from solving my problems, which counter productively seeks to remove something, to assembling puzzles, which can productively create something.
My paralyzed left side and inability to walk was one puzzle I needed to assemble. My paralyzed vocal chords and inability to make myself understood was another puzzle. Until I retrained myself, my need to wear a catheter because of my inability to control my bladder was yet another puzzle.
Creating Not Eliminating
Since whatever is focused on increases, the key is learning to solve problems by creating a solution instead of eliminating the problem. When I’m trying to eliminate problems, I’m focusing on problems. I remember the day I got my first lesson in creating instead of eliminating.
I was sitting in my wheelchair in the hall outside Harborview Hospital’s physical therapy room, gripping the handle of the hemi walker in front of me. My fiance Cheryl grips a support belt around my waist.
“Okay,” the therapist says. “On three, you stand up. One, two, three.”
Gripping the one handled walker, I stand. After I took three steps, the therapist moved the wheelchair right behind me and told me to sit back down.
Huh? This is the first time I’ve stood up in months. I don’t want to sit back down!
Cheryl tries to pull me back into the chair the therapist had moved right behind me, but I pull away, taking a large step with my good leg. I try to follow that by stepping forward with my left leg, but that leg won’t move. Down I go.
My hand, chest then face hit the floor. It stings, but not real bad. I can get up, but Cheryl drops to her knees beside me.
“Oh, baby, are you okay? I’m so sorry. Are you okay honey?”
I love attention, so I just lay there.
“Winners don’t quit!” A familiar voice says.
Huh? I look over my shoulder. My speech therapist is standing just inside her open office door.
(In my keynotes, I tell the rest of the story and the lessons I learned.)
The years I’ve spent focusing on the problem solving/puzzle building technique my speech therapist gave me that day helped me to gradually refine the technique my keynotes elaborate on.
From Problems to Puzzles
The key is in your focus. When I focus on assembling puzzles or creating solutions instead of solving or eliminating problems, both my audiences and I are well on our way to creating a type of utopia by living in the solution.
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